Morning Phone Calls

My Husband call every morning between 5:00 AM and 5:30 AM. I get up for 5:00 AM for work. He always seems to call at the worst possible moment. I'll be in middle of putting my hair up in ponytail and its still half in brush, my pants half on, one arm in shirt or mouth full of toothpaste you get the picture. I truly think he waits for the worst possible moment to call. It drives me absolutely insane. He always says the same exact thing every morning " Whatcha doin babe?" I"m doing the same thing I've been doing for the past 3 years I'm getting ready for work. Again totally drives me nuts.

 I can never understand why he has to call me every morning when he knows I'm trying to get ready for work. 

Recently I listened to the Audio book by Laura Story "When God Doesn't fix it" I thought it was going to be about chronic illness which it is sort of. Her husband has a brain tumor and while its not cancer. Removal of the tumor does leave them with some challenges such as short term memory loss. The book was not exactly what I thought it would be. I've been reading every christian book I can find about chronic illness. The book was written for Laura's viewpoint as the spouse.

 I had never truly put much about how my Lupus has impacted my husband Scott. At the time in our life when out children had left the nest and life should be good. I got Lupus. I understand the impact Lupus has on my life but what about Scott. One day he had a totally happy wife the next he had a wife he didn't know would live or die. Have you truly thought about the impact on your significant other?

Scott in now in charge of laundry, grocery shopping (not to sad about that one), he no longer takes weekend fishing trips with the guys, He drives everywhere we go. 

After Listening to the book I realized that annoying phone call every morning, the reason he makes it? He calls to see if I woke up!!! He calls to see if I'm dead! Can you imagine wondering everyday if your spouse woke up? So after realizing this I now answer that annoying phone call "Morning Babe" but he still calls at the worst time!!! 

Sometimes we need to step back and remember this is not only our diagnosis, but the whole families, We fight as a family. I am very blessed to have a very strong backbone in my husband. So every morning I pray for him and Thank God for his Blessing of my husband. 

Here is the link to Laura's book if you would like to read it. Its very good

https://www.christianbook.com/doesnt-lessons-wanted-learn-truths-without/laura-story/9780718036973/pd/036973